Mine has been dead for 8 years.
I am 60 now and I am also a Father.
I can never forgive what he said to me 6 months before he died. He did not have any mental problems and was completely calm and rational.
‘You are a piece of shit, just like your Sister, you have wasted everything I have ever given you and you are useless. I really wish I had never had sex with your Mother and conceived you. I wish you had never existed’.
Well a pretty ringing endorsement of my life to date, it is nice to know you gave some pleasure down the line.
With the passage of time I can say he was a troubled guy and jealous of my success later in life and scared he was about to meet his maker.
Forgiven, not just yet but I am working on it…